THE EXPERIENCE IS JUST THE EXPERIENCE written by Eric Bensoussan, Transformational Relationship & Divorce Coach
THE EXPERIENCE IS ONLY THE EXPERIENCE.
I would like to point out that we have a strong tendency to believe that we know precisely who we are.
That we control our experience by being certain of who we are, when in fact, a vast part of “who we think we are” has been programmed a certain way from our early childhood and as a result begins to be the subconscious track that plays in the background and becomes the script for how we ought to behave, and how we feel others ought to behave.
We are under a spell called, “We will tell you what to do, what you should do, and who you are allowed†to be”.
Through no fault of our own, we have largely been living under the influence of our parents, our teachers, our school environment, the places we lived, our culture and society, the expectations of others...etc.
I truly ask you to consider the question, “Are we really who we think we are”?
Or can we conclude that these old beliefs are no longer serving us, and it’s time for us to soften, and to begin to let go, understanding that something more evolved will come to take the place.
If we are not careful to be aware, we will fall again into the trap to firmly identify ourselves with our story, our circumstances, our beliefs on what’s possible or not.
We will again make the mistake of creating our identity solely based on the circumstances of our divorce, with the sense of repeat failure, or any other dramatically limiting stories we are telling ourselves.
So it’s time to break the spell.
"I am not my past"
"I am not my stories"
"I am not my divorce"
"I am not my pain"
Everything we live is just an experience. It is not us. And this experience is simply how we have happened to have experienced our life.
There is nothing to judge about how life has unfolded for us. There is no one to blame; not even ourselves.
So therefore, our experience does not define our identity. Our experience only helps us to uncover who we really are.
Every experience is an opportunity to get closer to our true self, identifying our unconscious beliefs, breaking the spells of our childhood, and breaking our past emotional imprints.
My experience of life is an opportunity to break free.
Deep down we already have everything we need to live fully. The human experience is a way of unravelling ourselves. That begs the question, “If I am not my experiences, who am I really?”
I am who I become overcoming my challenges ¨breaking old patterns living my experiences and sharing my truth.
I hope you are starting to see how this is a wonderful opportunity to begin to focus on what we really want and to go after it, with an open mind and curiosity. It’s the perfect time not to let our challenges get into the way on how we really want live our life.
Isn’t it amazing?
You can reinvent yourself day by day. So, Who do you want be?
The experience is just the experience. It doesn’t define who I am.
● Consider that your thoughts create the way you feel.
● Consider that the way you feel create your behavior.
● Consider that your behavior create your experience.
● In order to change my experience, I have to change believing in who I thought
I was, and be open to infinite possibilities.
What kind of thoughts support the person you want become?
Reinventing yourself is about choosing the thoughts that feels right and good for your growth.
Choosing the thoughts that feel right in your heart. And it starts now.
If you knew you couldn’t fail, Who would you want be? What would your life be like?
Take some time to envision it, and see how you feel about it.
You may want take some notes here.
Transformational Relationship & Divorce Coaching.
My life's experiences are the best teacher I have ever had. The most challenging times in my life were also the blessings, and treasures that I had to discover about myself. Everything in life is about relationships. relationships start with ourself.