STAY IN PLACE OF LOVE
I would like to share with you a perspective that can shift your life forever. It shifted my life.
I know you feel hurt, angry, resentful, betrayed, guilty, and so much more…..the pain is sometimes unbearable. We don’t understand why. We want let it go, but we hang on to it without knowing why, thinking, this is what it should be. We are addicted to our suffering.
Let’s go backward, and remind ourselves when we met for the first time, our future partners. How do we felt? What was possible? What is it that we really felt attracted to? How do we fell in love? How do we decided to create a family?
This was the time of love. You were in love of the person you probably hate the most today. Did you stop suddenly to love them or did it happen over weeks or years?
It doesn’t really matter, the love was there once. Love is a powerful energy, and we don’t stop loving people on clapping our hands.
There is actually no separation between the energy of love, and the love that we are.
What if you could connect to that place of love and feel compassion for your companion and yourself. What if you could hold this love, embrace it and honor it. What if you could use this love to support your pain.
We can’t live our life from a place of fear and anger forever. So what do you choose now?
What if you start to believe that anyone involved is hurt even if they are already moving on with their life.
Cause the truth is that everyone is hurt. We all did our best. Some of us better than others. Some of us cover the hurt by moving on quickly, some of us will be angry, some us will completely shut down…..Everyone has its own way to process, and there is nothing to judge.
Choosing to be in a place of love doesn’t mean you are agree with what happened, or on how you have been treated. But over the circumstances you choose love, cause deep down this is who you are, this what you seek for.
If I may share my personal story. My first two divorces, I always felt angry, resentful, wanting to be right, blaming, fighting for everything. Wanting some sort of justice, on how dare you treated me like that? What good did it give me ? Nothing, just more hurt, more pain, more sadness, not only for me but also for everyone involved. I lost time and energy on trying to convince myself I was right. So when everything fell apart unexpectedly the third time, I started to question myself, about this pain and hurt, and made the assumption that finally it had nothing to do with my ex wifes, or my circumstances but that pain and hurt was already there from my early childhood, and my emotional imprints. All was happening was only because the way I felt about myself, only because of the stories I made up about myself and what happened to me. All my triggers in the relationship were only a projection of my own struggles.
It was meant to be. I had to go through that in order for me to live what I am supposed to live from a place of love. So what you hate the most in your partner, has something to do with you. Hard to believe, but true.
So I decided to change something and to become someone else, and decided no matter what that I will stay in a place of love for my own sake and healing.
Love heals everything and everyone.
This is the greatest blessings of my life. Then, I had the opportunity to reinvent myself and to work on the most important relationship in my life: the one with myself. My happiness doesn’t depend on anyone else than me. I am responsible for it. I felt it was time to “ Walking home” and be who I was supposed to be, that I could use my light and my power to inspire others, with care, love and respect that we all deserve.
I chose love to make peace with myself. I chose love to be compassionate with myself. I chose love cause it felt finally right in my guts. Was it easy? Sometimes yes, and sometimes not. I had to catch myself when negative thoughts were coming.
I hold onto my decision, and found any ways possible to stay to that place of love until it felt so good, and so right.
My wish for you is that you can find that place of love within yourself and that you start to shift your perspective on the circumstances of your life. Infusing love in your life will give you many blessings and opportunity to heal faster.
It is the only way to take care of yourself and your future. It will impact everyone in your life.
That being said, that doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything.
That will give you the strength to finally find your boundaries, and to respect yourself. Love will help you find what works for you and what doesn't. Love will help you find what makes you feel good or not.
I CHOOSE LOVE, I CHOOSE CONSCIOUS LOVE over, and over again. What do you choose now?
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